Nobody puts baillee in the corner

I can honestly say I never thought I would have to write something like this, but there’s a full moon tonight, so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Last night, I fell asleep early because I was absolutely beat, so when I woke up a couple hours later not feeling well, I absentmindedly checked my phone. To my absolute surprise, I had an Instagram DM from someone I briefly worked with almost three years ago and barely know. 

Now, I know what you’re thinking: Was it a pyramid scheme invitation or a dick pic? Honestly, I wish it had been either one of those. I guess this individual has been keeping up with my blog posts and art, but I’m not entirely sure. What I am entirely sure of is they said I may be depressed, and I may be going through a lot, but they thought I was a total babe, so that should make me feel better.

NOW, before I even start to explain what’s wrong with this, I would like to start by saying I worship in the House of Lizzo. I know my worth, and honey, it sure as hell doesn’t come from late-night DMs. I do my hair toss and check my nails, y’all. I know I’m a total catch. Do I have down days? YES. But your worth absolutely doesn’t come from what others think of you.

Now, let’s dive in to what else is wrong with this. Mental illness isn’t something you can fix through the validation of others. You can’t just tell someone they have worth to you and completely change their brain chemistry. It’s something I’ve struggled with for years, and someone thinking I’m attractive isn’t going to change that.

Kind words are great support and can be a good first step, but don’t use someone’s mental state as a bargaining chip. Don’t try to take advantage of someone’s depression for personal gain. Compliment their art. Tell them they’re an awesome person. Ask them if they need anything.

Don’t assume they need you to comment on their looks. Don’t insinuate they need your affirmation to feel better. Don’t see their weakness as an opportunity.

Most importantly, don’t slip into their Instagram DMs at 1AM.